Okay yes, the marriage series is over but this one has been on my heart from some time.
I think one of the things that people don’t tell you about when you’re getting married is the wisdom you need to have to give advice to your spouse.
Naturally, Cree comes to me to make life decisions from small to big. Whether he should wear a blue shirt or sell his property. And it took me some time to adjust to fully processing through sharing my thoughts and giving him sound advice.
A huge solution for me was prayer, literally asking God what he thinks I should tell Cree; because honestly half the time I was busy guessing too.
But I would evaluate a situation, go back and forth with Cree on why he wants to make each decision, and the most important thing I learned was to pause.
Take a moment to reflect overall, ask others for their opinion and then be able to find some clarity in whatever I advise Cree to do.
I was putting a lot of pressure on myself to make sure I was always giving him the PERFECT ANSWER that would lead to the PERFECT DECISION. But the truth is, it doesn’t exist. And that’s not Cree was looking for anyway.
He was looking for a partner to share his thoughts with, be able to bounce ideas off one another, and ultimately come to a decision together.
It’s important for you to be 100% tuned in with your partner in order to be able to show up for them.
A huge part of marriage, if not the theme itself, is just going through every step together.
I love being able to listen and help Cree. To know that he trusts and respects me enough to get my opinion is an honor to me.
If you take anything from this to remember to stop putting so much pressure on yourself to show up with the perfect answer and embrace the challenge of figuring it out as a team.
Cree is the type of man you look forward to helping because his growth won’t just bless him, it’ll bless so many lives surrounding him. And that’s the kind of fruit I’m excited to see come to harvest.
All my love
JMoore
18/30
