Cree and I stand on respect and vulnerability.
Understanding that if we don’t have those two things, we will be in trouble. And from the very beginning we established this.
I’ll tell you right now, I’m possessive of my man and my marriage. Which means I don’t like thinking about prior relationships, situationships, and/or whatever foolishness Cree was hopping around in before God revealed me to him.
And while there’s no judgement surrounding our past, we also believe that no one out side of our marriage should be able to “surprise” me with something they know about my partner that I don’t know.
What did this mean for us?
Through time, He and I shared our past partners and gave context where context was needed. It was hard for me to digest up front, like I couldn’t believe Cree even looked at girls before he met me LOL.
But really, it was hard hearing about his history. But once I was able to process through and I’m sure him vice versa, it was one less thing for us to worry about.
We are very adamant on sharing all we can so we are never thrown off guard from others.
This was important for me because if we didn’t share, there could be a woman looking at my lopsided and me not knowing that her and my husband ended poorly or just had a dramatic time together and I end up being confused.
And since I’ve met Cree, he promised to never confuse me. Not with his feelings, his actions, or his past.
Being straight forward in the beginning and laying it all on the table has strengthened our bond.
This didn’t happen as soon as we were dating, the conversation sprouted when we knew we would get married.
So it’s important to identify the different phases of your relationship so you can discuss things proportionality.
I’m so blessed to have an equally yoked partner who’s committed to continue cultivating a safe marriage.
All my love
JMoore
13/30
